'Him & Her' 2011

WTF! Valentine's Day again.. I've still got the cards and chocolates from last year...

I'm sure some will be making their final preparations for tomorrow, whilst others will be hoping tomorrow never comes and would happily skip to Tuesday 15th.

I have come to the conclusion that men in relationships and 'singlettes' (aka single women) both despise 'Love day' equally, Men because they are burdened with having to do some romantic gesture or at-the-least part with some cash and single women because they are reminded that they are painfully happily single.

As a 'man in a relationship' I am feeling a little overwhelmed by the pressure to do something special, this is a new sensation because in years gone by, I would conveniently end my relationship(s) in late January to avoid the whole palaver, but this year it looks like there is no escaping it.

Anyway, whether you are in a relationship or happily single, enjoy & show love.

And given that it is that time of year, I have some relationship themed music for you. This 6 Track EP tells the story of a couple that meet and go through the motions of a relationship until its demise!

[DOWNLOAD]

Download and listen. It's very good... and i'm not just saying that because he is my bredrin. lol.. here's a sample for the non-believers...





... and this is something we prepared last year

Mixed Feelings

You may have been able to tell from the title that today's topic is interracial dating/relationships.

There are two reasons for me writing this post. First, I am tired of writing about head-ties and weave. Secondly, I discovered that an ex of mine is now dating a white dude.. and It has come to my attention that the love of my life and #2 on my smash-list, Kelly Rowland is also dating a white dude...

Wait... before I continue, let me throw in a quick disclaimer, "I am not [a] racist, I have white friends.." LOL

Now, we are all familiar with the common pairing, when you think about "interracial dating", instantly an image of a big black guy with a white girl (usually a blonde) pops into your head..

well, recently I have noticed more and more black chicks and white dudes.. Is this the new fashion trend. Now, don't get it twisted, I'm not on a "they are taking all our women" tip, but they are! LOL.

Last year the trend was black lesbians. I attempted to tackle this issue in a post i titled "Les-bi-honest". In the comments someone said -

[Black] men need to ask themselves why females feel the need to turn to other females...this should b a lesson to all fellas to start acting right

Can the same be said about black chicks "new" liking for white men? Are black women turning there backs on black men and exploring their options?

Or maybe they are just getting us back for leaving your ass's for white girls?

I'd like to say that everyone is entitled to happiness regardless of who they find it in. Happiness is primary, race is secondary. but we live in a world were prejudice exists.

Interracial dating is no longer a taboo... and we are heading to the days when everyone will be beige mixed, but pressure from family, friends and wider society must still exist.

Pressure still exists even within black/black relationships, as highlighted in last weeks episode of "The Family"; a fly on the wall documentary that follows the lives of a Anglo-Nigerian family. For those that haven't been paying their TV licence (me included), it can be watched here.

The programme reminded me that, although Afro/Carib relationships are common, there is still a cultural divide and crossing that divide can be like crossing a mine-field, especially if you have "traditional" African parents and your lady-friend is a Ja-may-kan (by the way, if you are black and not African, you are automatically Jamaican).

The majority of the stories I hear involve non-African (Jamaican) girls being treated like they "stole meat from the pot" by their boyfriends African parents, but I'm sure the ignorance goes both ways.... feel free to share your views by commenting.

Luckily my mum is liberal and would not have any issue with me settling down with a Jamaican girl, but i've gotta make sure she doesn't see this video...



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Heat Weave

Unless you've been hiding in a fridge, you would have noticed that we are in the midst of a heatwave, with temperatures this weekend set to reach a sweltering 31°C, dunno what that is in Fahrenheit.. but i know it's gonna be as "hot as hell"..

I'm personally looking forward to enjoying the glorious sunshine, go for a long drive, sunglasses on with some Teedra playing...

I know many of the ladies are planning to bring out that maxi-dress or those batty-riders... I can't wait.

But... there are a few that aren't looking forward to the heat, rather than getting out and enjoy it, they will be seeking refuge in the shade, fearing for the well-being of their beloved WEAVE.

I always wondered why the habitual weave-wearers went missing every summer, and now I know that it's because their hairstyle of choice isn't exactly heat-friendly...

This revelation dawned on me during a recent trip to Miami. The heat over there was blistering... I witnessed a number of sweated out weaves... frizzy afros and even a saggy lace-fronts being undone by melted glue.. maybe she should have carried that 'Pritt Stick' in her handbag..

Anyway, the sun isn't the only reason that weaves are being sweated out...

Fellas, don't you just love when your girl comes round after a trip to the hair dressers... with her hair looking so brand new... and after a night of emotional loving.... she leaves in the morning with her weave, perm or jheri-curl sweated out. looking like Blanka from Street Fighter... Send her ass straight back to the hairdressers...

The things women do for their men. Gotta love it... There was a time when I didn't fully understand black girl hair.. and I still don't but finally I understand the purpose of a "head-tie"...



I was gonna get at the excessive make-up wearers, but i'll spare them (save it for another blog), all i'm gonna say is... apply in moderation... otherwise you're gonna melt this summer...

Miami was great, by the way.. very hot but great. I acquired a different type of complexion over there... I am a fully fledged member of team dark-skin but I came back with a tan and a new nickname.. "Oreo Cookie". how cruel... plus an American girl accused me of being Haitian...

Anyway, I'm off to enjoy my weekend... you should do the same..

Vote for me

Thanks for welcoming me back with open arms.. I've been busy wastemanin it out.. enjoying semi-retirement.. but now, I find myself back here doing what i enjoy the most..

This blog is supposed to be a 'politics free zone', but there is no escaping the fact we are in the midst of a General Election.

The rallies, party political broadcasts, televised debates and those hyper-active campaigners knocking down doors like TV license inspectors.. beggin' votes.

Although the polls have been open from marning (Jamaican accent).. and voting is well under way, many of you are still undecided, so i'm gonna use this opportunity to beg your vote. Mr Lewiboro for Prime Minister..

I do not belong to a political party, I have no manifesto or policies so to speak. I'm unsure of how i'd solve the issues that affect us all, but i'm a good guy who means well.. and I promise not to waste your tax money on champagne and b*tches.

All jokes aside, It's time to act. It's time to vote. This is a democracy baby... and whoever said political parties aren't gangs, see below.. gang warfare..


This is kinda funny still.. either the BNP dude is a shower-man or the Asian dudes are donuts with legs? you decide..

Incisive : One Valentine's Day

Happy Valentine's Day, This is our offering to all the lovers in the world, I know the fellas can relate... and to think this was all done yesterday (13 Feb 2010), 12 hours from conception to finished production (track and mini video). I am happy to have played a part in this mini project, but the majority of the props go to Incisive, I have said it before and I'll say it again... I really wish I could rap! Enjoy!


Download the MP3 from http://www.Incisive1.blogspot.com

The Last 365 Days

We are just days away from the end of 2009... it's that time when we anticipate the arrival of the new year and reflect on the highs and lows of the year gone passed.

Although, the year has passed in the blink of an eye, so much has happened in 2009... we have lost loved ones (RIP), welcomed newborns... burnt bridges (and rebuilt them)... some unlucky b*stards even experienced the pain of broken bones... ouch!

Despite the pain and misfortune, the year has flown by, It was this time last year when I penned my New Years Resolutions for '09. the list of 30-odd lifestyle changes that if followed could have potentially made me a better man...

Well, here's an update... I have kindly decided to share a few of my successes failures..

No. 2 - 'Be less harsh on women, they're not all evil' - As long as women insist on wearing head-ties, lace front weaves and leaning Uggs, I will continue to be harsh.

No. 4 - 'Learn how to cook' - My culinary skills have improved 10-fold over the course of the year, mainly due to fact that I have been forced to cook since the closure of my local chicken & chip shop earlier this year... but now that I have my George Foreman gangster grill, the sky really is the limit. come dine with me.

No. 5 - 'Get hench' - I was well on my way to henchness, I was even told that I had the torso of Tyson Beckford (I have proof), but then I broke my leg, lost all motivation, got lazy and started binge eating.

No. 8 - 'Spend more time in church' - I am ashamed to say that I have only been to church on one occasion this year. It was a great occasion none-the-less, the christening of a friends daughter. *L & K, i love your daughter like she was my own.

No. 15 - 'Avoid falling in love' - This has gotta be the dumbest of all my resolution, How immature was I 12 months ago... I guess I wasn't ready to embrace it, Love is what makes life worth living. time to embrace it.

No. 17 - 'Get rich' - I am still £99,999 away from being rich. Time to start spending those £1 coins on lottery tickets instead of £1 chicken and chips.

No. 18 - 'Learn how to parallel park' - I have had issues with parallel parking since my learner days... The phobia was so deep that I acted like I didn't hear my test instructor when he asked me to do one during my driving test. 5 years have passed and i'm still learning.

No. 19 - 'Spend more time with family' - I got love for my family and friends, even those borderline bredrins. I'd like to spend more time with certain people, but we are all busy people...

No. 27 - 'Drink responsibly' - I am still two sips away from being an alcoholic. I will always choose Cherry Brandy/Disaronno over Ribena/Coca Cola.. My love of alcohol is here to stay.

No. 30 - 'Less work, more play' - Everybody knows how much I love to 'jamm'. But I have realised that although the responsibility of work is an annoyance, we aren't just working for today, but we're working for our futures, so it's about finding a balance between work and play... abit of work, abit of play... it's taken me 25 years to realise this.

No. 31 - 'Avoid becoming a baby-daddy' - it's funny how when you're young[er], your parents say "don't be getting no girl pregnant!!!!", but when you're old[er], they pester you about having grandkids for them - I just thought i'd put that out there... (sorry mum)

So in conclusion, I basically failed all of the above (with the exception of #31), and as far as the ones I didn't mention, i failed those too... actually, I did manage to turn 25!!!

Resolutions are so easy to think of, but hard to stick to. Life has a funny way of interfering with your plans.. shit happens, focus is lost and resolutions are abandoned.

Although, I may not have succeeded with all 32, I am fully committed to self improvement. Mr Lewiboro is work in progress.

*Blog Closed. thanks for following me on my journey. I wish you all peace, love and happiness in the new year and forevermore. over & out!

Unfitness First

Okay, so last week, I got a random call from a Personal Trainer from my local Fitness First... offering a FREE personal training session. Like any other black person…. I love freeness, so I foolishly accepted not knowing what I was letting myself in for..

Going to the gym, in itself isn't out of the ordinary... although, ever since I snapped my right leg like a lil bitch, I haven't been going as often as I used to.. Usually I'd make the journey once or twice a week, but due to the leg break and laziness I haven't really been going at all.

A usual session consists of meeting up with the mandem, chatting about how crazy women are, catching jokes, cussing certain man for having 'Jodeci chests'... jumping on the treadmill, lifting a couple weights and going home feeling "hench". Nothing too intense… nice and simple…

Well, yesterday's session wasn't the usual... I arrive at the gym on time, to be greeted by some hench gay looking smiley-face dude... My new personal trainer… I swear down, he's eyes lit up when he saw me... even though he appeared to be a homo-sapien, I decided to ignore it and proceeded to the changing room... no homo!

The session was scheduled to last an hour... I thought it was going to be a light introduction... boyyy, was I wrong...

That motherf*ck*r had me doing circuits, star jumps, roly poly's... chin ups, sit up... everything... pushed me to my limit. Words can't express how intense it was... I swear, I thought I was going to die... I spent half the session in the recovery position… trying to catch my breath.. breathing hard.. panting... sweating like a fat girl f*cking... pure sufferation!

I am so lucky that there were no chicks about... that would not have been a good look at all.. Anyway vanity aside, it highlights how a comfortable lifestyle can lead to unfitness and eventually roundness... Look after your body… watch what you eat and make sure you exercise regularly (sex doesn’t count)…

It looks like I'm going to be spending alot of time in the gym this winter.. I might even start running for buses and chasing women like the good old days…

Note: ladies, don't get it twisted... I've got crazy stamina in the bedroom... lazy lover but I go hard! Ahahaha!

Note to the larger ladies: no disrespect intended. you probably sweat as much as the rest of us during sex, I was just trying to get the point across. love y'all.